By Shelby Leiding The second myth Shefali Tsabury discusses in her book The Awakened Family, is that that "a successful child is ahead of the curve". As competition for educational opportunities and financial resources has increased, so too has the pressure parents feel to ensure their child has the best chances of success. Indeed, we … Continue reading Myth 2: Successful children are ahead of the curve
There is no doubt that our personal stories have a powerful impact on the way we parent. However, our personal history is only one side of the coin, the other is the story society tells us. While there is no doubt that our cultures, religions, and societies can provide us with a rich context for … Continue reading Parenting Myth 1: Parenting Is About The Child
We as parents have the capacity to make an enormous difference in our children. What I’m about to write it’s going to be hard to read. Believe me, it was hard to write. To bring freedom from shame, I am going to be very open about my failures as a parent. Resilience in our children … Continue reading Blog 7: Resilience is in the Repair
I feel like I’ve spent most of my life seeking to be understood. Growing up, I felt like the odd ball in my family. I was the emotional one in the midst of my parents and grandparents who were conditioned to bury emotions. They were educated and intellectual, I was artsy and chaotic. They didn’t … Continue reading Blog 6: How unresolved issues affect our parenting
Experiences are like a suitcase we carry with us through our lives. The Power of Experience For a long time, scientists have argued about whether it is nature or nurture that ultimately decides our fate. Are our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions biologically determined? Or are they primarily influenced by our environment? The answer is both. … Continue reading Blog 5: How experiences shape us
The problem in our culture is that we think we have to do this parenting thing alone. In fact our culture celebrates those who make it on our own. We often face crisis in isolation. I go to the grocery store, to the gym, to the mall and am surrounded by people - yet very … Continue reading Blog 4: Don’t Do This Parenting Thing Alone
Holding Up the Mirror Imagine this scenario for a moment: You come home after a long day and find your 11-year old son once again glued to the TV playing his favorite video game. You notice his dirty socks on the coffee table amidst the crumbs and empty chip bags and your blood begins to … Continue reading Blog #3: Courageous Caregiving: Why Parents and Caregivers Need Self-Awareness
For me, having to look in the mirror as a parent has been one of the most courageous things I’ve ever done. My son was diagnosed at the age of six with ADHD, ODD, anxiety, depression and asbergers. This was relieving for us to know how to work with many of the behaviours that confused and frustrated … Continue reading Blog #2: What everyone parent can do to change their home.
My son was only five years old when he was diagnosed with depression and anxiety along with ADHD, ODD (oppositional defiance disorder), and Aspergers. It was a lot to take in. My husband and I were partly relieved because up until the diagnosis, life with our son had been very hard. We just thought we … Continue reading Blog #1: Why Village?